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We all need someone.

By Nathan B April 25, 2023


Note: This post talks about depression and suicidal ideation. Please use your discretion.


I grew up as the only male in my household. Growing up, I always felt overlooked -- and truthfully, I was. Regardless of how hard I tried, I always seemed to fall behind my peers. Oftentimes, this was attributed to my physical impairment. But, deep within me, I always knew there was more to it.


It went on like this for a while. And, I truly felt like no one saw, no one listened,
and no one really understood how much I was struggling.

This came to a head about 8 years ago, when I entered into a depressive state, at the age of 16. For the four years that followed, I felt like ending it all -- taking myself out of the picture. I felt like I couldn't be vulnerable in my own space. I am Christian, but in my moment of despair, I felt like other Christians couldn't or wouldn't comprehend what I was going through.


My physical health also plummeted, during this period. I was ill, underweight, and in so much physical and mental pain. It was unbearable. Everyone's advice?: "Just pray."


One day, I had finally had enough of carrying this load alone. I cried and cried, until there were no tears left. And, I made a decision there and then to open up to a friend, in a way that I never had before. This was so critical and life-changing for me, because that friend had their own share of mental health challenges. And, I think their lived experience helped them to truly listen to me.


I have never felt more vulnerable. But, I also never felt so heard and understood.

Shortly after that, I sought help through therapy. I got better. And, I began to understand myself in ways I never thought I could. All of this, because someone took the time to listen to me, to understand me, and to encourage me to seek help.


Now, I can confidently say I am healthier. And, I have a new outlook on life.


If there's anything that I want people to take away from my story, it's that...



We all need someone we can be open, honest, and vulnerable with.


For me, I found that person in a moment when my world felt like it was ending. And, that single interaction, changed the trajectory of my life.


I close with this special call to the young men reading: Don't neglect your wellbeing. It's okay to speak up. It's okay to be vulnerable. It's okay to seek help!

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Nathan is a 24 year old from Barbados. He has a passion for drawing, and is also a lover of all things physical fitness.

 

In a moment of despair, we could all use a little help and support. If you're going through a rough patch, and/or dealing with thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please reach out to one of these Caribbean Mental Health Hotlines. You can also find some other resources compiled by Let's Unpack It here. Help is just one click or one phone call away.


We all have a mental health story. And, when we are open enough to share it, we can build hope, dismantle stigma, and help others to know that they're not alone. So, if you're comfortable, take a moment to share your lived experience here. #CareToShare

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Hi Nathan, your bravery must be commended. Thank you for sharing your story and I am soo very happy that you listened to that inspired thought. I pray for your continued improvement in wellness and success in life. Take good care.


P.S. I to share the sentiment that we must share with a trusted individual. This is a critical step.


Kimmora

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Sarah Holder
Sarah Holder
Apr 25, 2023

Thank you for sharing your story Nathan. It takes courage to share such personal experiences publicly. I was touched by how having a friend who listened and understood you played a significant role in your journey. Such friends are important to offer support in the tough times and i'm glad you had that. Your story reminded me to be the friend that listens and understands. Thank You!

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Chelsea Jordan
Chelsea Jordan
Apr 25, 2023

Thank you Nathan B. for sharing your story! At times we think that we must go through hardships alone, but it is so important to remember and cultivate your support system. I am so happy that you found your much needed support and that you were able to seek help! Sometimes, all we need is someone that we can share with!💚🫂

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David Johnson
David Johnson
Apr 25, 2023

This was such a moving story Nathan! Thanks for the bravery you showed in sharing it. I hope that everyone will find that kind of friend. 🥹💚

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Eden Herbert
Eden Herbert
Apr 25, 2023

Sometimes people just need someone to talk to 💚

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I agree! Wholeheartedly.

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